Week 11 D3

One concept that I found interesting this week was,  Displaced conflict. This is when a person directs a conflict towards the wrong person, and in turns then avoids a confrontation with the appropriate person.  Usually the person that your trying to avoid is someone that you don’t want to offend and so you direct the conflict to a “safe” person that you feel comfortable discussing it with.  The book gives an example of a  guy who is angry at his boss and comes home to his wife and kids and abuse them with his anger.  I would have to say that the example in the book is something that I have seen firsthand.  My dad would sometimes do that as well after a long frustrating day at work. Or I have seen my brother get made with me for something that his girlfriend did instead. I believe that displaced conflict happens more that one may think because it does seem to be “safer” to get made with someone else that you feel comfortable with then the actual person creating the conflict.

week 11 D2

I will admit that I have made false attributions. I believe that every does at one point or another. The last time was actually just this week. I had made plans with friends for Halloween on this past Sunday and I had thought that everything was still set. I was texting my friend that morning about other things besides our plans for the evening. She hadn’t said anything about them to be either so I assumed that it was still going on. Turns out they bailed and we made other plans instead. Later that night after they found out that we were upset with them for bailing they tried to play it off that they couldn’t get ahold of us which wasn’t the case.  This made the conflict worse, but in the end I just blew it off instead of being mad about it.  I think that I have made accurate attributions before that have ended up helping me.  The last time I believe I did this was when I had work, and wanted to go to a concert instead and didn’t no how to cancel on babysitting. The family has been flakey at times and I had a feeling that they were going to end up canceling anyways and I wouldn’t have to be the one to do it. It was down to about an hour before I needed to leave and I still hadn’t heard anything from them, so I figured I might as well just get ready for the concert and hope for the best. Then after I was done getting ready, sure enough they called and canceled on me. So I went to the concert instead. This accurate attribution might not be a typical one, but it made it so that I ended up being able to have fun instead of looking like the bad guy and canceling on work.

Week 11 D-1

After doing research on the terms forgiveness, reconciliation and revenge, I found different types of sites for each. I used google and when I put in Forgiveness I found a few psychology sites, a doctor site, and a couple of links to some music videos. It came up with about 55million results. Next I searched reconciliation and found, mostly sites giving the definition of it. It came back with about 52million results. There was also one movie hit site for it as well. The last term was revenge and that came back with about  264million results. Most of the sites were about the ABC sitcom show Revenge.  There were some links to watch clips of the show and just a bunch of sites about the show.  Revenge produced the most about of results. They were mostly about the show instead of the term revenge. I think that if a person were to have searched the term Revenge before the show first aired, then the results would have been different and more results might have came back having to do with what revenge is. Since that show is so popular, it makes sense that most of the results were based on that show.