Week 16 D3

Over the course of them semester I learned a lot about conflict and how to deal with it. My favorite concept that we learned would be the S-TLC system. I believe it to be a great system and method of steps to take in order to deal with conflicts. I also learned how to avoid conflicts that might occur. Conflicts will always happen in life. It is best to know and understand how to deal with them in a way that everyone would be happy. Also it good to know how to deal with conflicts I different situations.  As always when conflicts become too hard to handle, knowing that you can reach out to a mediator to help you is a good thing to know. They can help you solve big conflicts instead of having to spend lots of money going to court over things.  I am thankful for all of the tactics that I have learned when dealing with conflicts. This class was extremely helpful in providing tools for future conflicts that could arise.

Week 16 D-1 Conflict views

I believe that people have such negative views of conflict because they don’t like to handle conflicts and they also don’t know to handle conflict the right way.  I think that if people knew how to deal with conflicts in a matter that would make them happy then they wouldn’t have such negative view on it. Some people are stubborn and they don’t like to admit to being wrong, so that can make the conflict worse off than it needs to be. I know that I am not as afraid of conflict as I once was after taking this class. I know how to deal with certain situations more and how to explain/teach conflict concepts to others, so that they will learn how to manage their conflicts better. I do think that as people know more about conflicts, they fear it less.  Once you learn more about it, then you can better manage it and not be so afraid of conflicts. So I would have to agree with that statement that when knowing more about conflicts, you fear it less.  Learning more about conflicts also helps you steer clear from them too.

Week 16 D1 Class eval

This class overall was great! I really enjoyed everything in it and I learned a lot. Conflict will always happen so it is good to know how to deal with certain situations. I enjoyed doing the conflict workshop project. I think it really helped learn the concepts in more details. I also learned more about how to deal and teach conflicts to children since that was my focus area. The project was also really fun to do and helpful. The discussions also really helped in learning more about the concepts as well. Commenting on our classmates blogs were helpful in seeing their view points. There wasn’t any weaknesses that I can think of off the top of my head. The teacher was always willing and able to help. The content of the class was sufficient to learn in details about conflicts.  I would definitely recommend this class to other students since you learn about conflict and it helps with everyday ordeals.

Week 11 D3

One concept that I found interesting this week was,  Displaced conflict. This is when a person directs a conflict towards the wrong person, and in turns then avoids a confrontation with the appropriate person.  Usually the person that your trying to avoid is someone that you don’t want to offend and so you direct the conflict to a “safe” person that you feel comfortable discussing it with.  The book gives an example of a  guy who is angry at his boss and comes home to his wife and kids and abuse them with his anger.  I would have to say that the example in the book is something that I have seen firsthand.  My dad would sometimes do that as well after a long frustrating day at work. Or I have seen my brother get made with me for something that his girlfriend did instead. I believe that displaced conflict happens more that one may think because it does seem to be “safer” to get made with someone else that you feel comfortable with then the actual person creating the conflict.

week 11 D2

I will admit that I have made false attributions. I believe that every does at one point or another. The last time was actually just this week. I had made plans with friends for Halloween on this past Sunday and I had thought that everything was still set. I was texting my friend that morning about other things besides our plans for the evening. She hadn’t said anything about them to be either so I assumed that it was still going on. Turns out they bailed and we made other plans instead. Later that night after they found out that we were upset with them for bailing they tried to play it off that they couldn’t get ahold of us which wasn’t the case.  This made the conflict worse, but in the end I just blew it off instead of being mad about it.  I think that I have made accurate attributions before that have ended up helping me.  The last time I believe I did this was when I had work, and wanted to go to a concert instead and didn’t no how to cancel on babysitting. The family has been flakey at times and I had a feeling that they were going to end up canceling anyways and I wouldn’t have to be the one to do it. It was down to about an hour before I needed to leave and I still hadn’t heard anything from them, so I figured I might as well just get ready for the concert and hope for the best. Then after I was done getting ready, sure enough they called and canceled on me. So I went to the concert instead. This accurate attribution might not be a typical one, but it made it so that I ended up being able to have fun instead of looking like the bad guy and canceling on work.

Week 11 D-1

After doing research on the terms forgiveness, reconciliation and revenge, I found different types of sites for each. I used google and when I put in Forgiveness I found a few psychology sites, a doctor site, and a couple of links to some music videos. It came up with about 55million results. Next I searched reconciliation and found, mostly sites giving the definition of it. It came back with about 52million results. There was also one movie hit site for it as well. The last term was revenge and that came back with about  264million results. Most of the sites were about the ABC sitcom show Revenge.  There were some links to watch clips of the show and just a bunch of sites about the show.  Revenge produced the most about of results. They were mostly about the show instead of the term revenge. I think that if a person were to have searched the term Revenge before the show first aired, then the results would have been different and more results might have came back having to do with what revenge is. Since that show is so popular, it makes sense that most of the results were based on that show.