After reading chapter 2 and learning more about the process
of managing conflict, I would have to say that I take a non-process view on
relationships more, but it does depend on the situation. I think that at times
I do it for communication and conflict as well, and like I said before it just
depends on the situation. When looking at it in a relationship aspect I do it
more. I’m not a fan of changes a lot and at times I believe that some people
really can’t change no matter how hard they try. I have tried to help people
change and it hasn’t worked so I’ve given up on people changing. I think that
over time and with someone proving me wrong that I could change my thinking
towards it. Another way that could help my way of thinking would be not jumping
to conclusions and getting a better understanding of what is really going on.
I really enjoyed reading your post. I think you make some great point, but I have to disagree to an extent regarding the issue of people changing. I think the only way people can change is if they truly want to change. From experience I have learned that you can’t change someone, even if you try hard to change them, they have to want to change. My boyfriend is a great example of that. His attitude on school has changed significantly, but because he wants to better his life and he wanted to change his attitude towards school. So there is hope for people to change, but again they need to want it. I agree with you when it comes to conflict and the situation. How much do you care about the situation and the people involved, that is what always weighs the intensity of the conflict, for me at least. Great post!
ReplyDeleteHi Roro, great job with your discussion post. I liked how you responded by admitting that you are not a fan of change because it shows your honesty. I can understand how you can feel that sometimes people just can’t change no matter how hard you try. I myself have had conflicts in my life where I feel that same way about the other person. But I have come to realize that no matter what you do, the other person has to be open to change in order for it to occur. While this is very frustrating, it is very true. I’ve had instances where I’ve tried my best and provided ample evidence to sway the other person, but because they were closed off going into the conflict, we were not able to make a change and resolve the issue.
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