There was an event in my life that left it difficult to
forgive the other person. It happened with one of my old bestfriends. She and
her boyfriend(who I have known my whole life, great family friend) broke up, I
tried to stay out of it and be friends with both of them. Her ex/my friend
still and my boyfriend were hanging out, and the girl had called her ex and was
trash talking me. The call happened to
be on speaker phone and my boyfriend hear the whole thing. The girl/my
supposedly bestfriend was making up lies about me and saying how I was a
horrible person. After she had said that
about me, it made it extremely hard to forgive her, I actually have not fully forgave
her. The book talks about best friends and a truth bias towards them, so when
that was broken it made me really upset because she tried to lie about the
conversation that took place between her and her ex and her trashing me. So our
relational transgression was violated in the truth bias aspect.
Hi Roro, I thought you did a great job with answering this question. I can definitely relate to the situation you were in because I have seen this happen with other people I know. When two people have a messy break up, they are not the only ones who are affected. Their friends have to deal with the situation too. The fact that the person you thought was your friend ended up trash talking about you is unfortunate. But as the book says, try to forgive and move on because you really don’t need that kind of person in your life. Nice work Roro!
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