Week 5 D3

One thing that stuck out at me in this chapter was the I-Statements. The book says that it is an important still in conflict to be able to use assertive I-statements. It makes it so you can personalize the conflict by owning up to your feelings and not just making it the responsibility of the other person. It helps to take the blame you might put on others off. Using I feel, or I think, or I don’t like can be better than saying  You said, you’re wrong…etc. There are 4 components of the I-Statement which are, feeling statement. A feelings statement is a description of your feelings. Next is the Problematic behavior statement which is a description of the offensive, selfish, upsetting, problem-producing behavior.  Then the Consequences statement, and that is a description of the consequences the problematic behavior has for you or others. And lastly is the Goal statements, and that’s a description of what you want specifically.  The I-statement is important to learn and understand how it works when dealing with conflict. At times I have put the blame on others and it can be hard to work thing out. But when you say things like, I feel, or I think when talking to others it doesn’t put all the blame on them and it can make the conflict easier to deal with. For example when I talk with my friends about things that they do that bothers me, I say I think instead of you do, or you’re wrong and it makes it more friendly to talk to them.